What Do You Do When Your Whole World is About to Implode?
You probably never thought you would be looking at a program like this.
You thought when you got married that it would be forever.
Now you’re staring down the barrel of an impending divorce, and you have no idea what to do.
You don’t want to hurt your kids.
You don’t want to lose everything you have and have to start all over again … with nothing.
Most, of all, you don’t want to make a mistake.
The stakes are way too high.
If you screw up now, you could lose everything: your house, your kids, your retirement, your life (maybe not literally, but that’s sure what it feels like!).
You want to throw up just thinking about how stupid you’ve been, and how little you know about what’s coming next.
What you need is a guide: an expert who knows the road ahead and can give you a map of what’s coming so that you don’t have to go through it alone, or in the dark.
You need someone who can tell you the potential problems to watch out for in the days and weeks ahead. You need someone who can tell you the mistakes to avoid so you won’t end up crashing and burning, like so many of the divorce horror stories you have heard.
I'm Karen Covy.
I've been a Divorce Attorney, Adviser, and Mediator for over 20 years.
I'm also a Divorce Coach and the author of ...
I've been on television, radio, and featured on podcasts across the country. You can find my articles on divorce all over the web and on my own blog.
I have helped thousands of people get through their divorce.
I can help you, too.
But not the way you may think.
Fighting in court might make sense when you're trying to protect consumers from being hurt by faulty products, or enforce your rights under a contract. But when you're divorcing your spouse and your kids are in the middle, fighting in court is usually your worst option.
That's why I don't do it anymore.
I've spent decades fighting in court. That's how I know that, most of the time, it doesn't work.
Sure, when you don't understand what's happening, it's natural to want a gladiator by your side.
But gladiators won't help you keep the peace. They will only start a war.
So getting yourself a gladiator and "lawyering up" before you even know whether that's what you need to do, can make your divorce one hundred times harder.
What the lawyers won't tell you is that, when you make your divorce more difficult, you make your life after divorce more difficult, too.
It's not that all divorce lawyers are bad. But if you don't understand how they work, you may find that by the time you leave your lawyer's office you're either all fired up about protecting your "rights" or terrified that you're going to end up so poor that you'll be living out of your car for the rest of your life.
That's not an accident.
A lot of divorce lawyers will play on your fears. They'll "stir the pot" and make your divorce more complicated, more time-consuming and more expensive than you ever dreamed.
The problem is that going it alone, without a lawyer, can make your divorce an even bigger nightmare - especially if your spouse has a lawyer!
That's why you need to understand how divorce really works, and what your options are, BEFORE you get a lawyer.
Otherwise, you're likely to make mistakes and start a battle from which there is no retreat.
While you might think fighting is exactly what you want to do (or you may think that's what you NEED to do because your spouse already fired the first shot) I can tell you from decades of experience on the front lines - NO ONE walks off the battlefield without getting bloody and battered.
And then there's the collateral damage ...
Here are some of the things divorced people have said they WISHED they knew before they got divorced:
"Never put yourself and your children completely into the hands of an attorney. Just because he/she is expensive, doesn’t mean (you'll get) quality representation. You’d be surprised at how little $495/hr can buy."
"Like any important thing you do, do some research. ... Identify the standard from which you will work off of. ... Do everything you can before handing the most personal, meaningful, and important part of your life over to disinterested, cynical, money grabbing strangers. "
"Do your homework before getting started about the process, attorneys, and shady things that the other side may do."
I'm not suggesting that you shouldn’t get legal advice.
You absolutely should.
But, you need to be smart about it.
Unless you like to fight, and you don’t mind spending your kids’ college fund and your entire retirement account on lawyers’ fees, getting a lawyer involved in your divorce before you understand how the divorce process really works can be the biggest mistake you’ve ever made.
Because divorce lawyers make money when you fight …
… and, when you are facing divorce, and you don’t know what to do, it’s easy to think that fighting is your only option.
Most lawyers won’t tell you anything different.
Why should they?
When you and your spouse divorce amicably, your lawyers make less money.
those divorce lawyers who are willing to help you divorce amicably won't usually spend the time to tell you how divorce works, step by step, from beginning to end. They won't give you a road map that lays out the divorce process in advance.
After you hire a lawyer, you’re often lucky if you can get them to respond to a phone call!
Thinking that a lawyer will hold your hand and spend hours explaining to you how the divorce system works is unrealistic.
That's not what lawyers do.
Plus, even if you could find a divorce lawyer who was willing to explain to you how divorce really works, it would cost you thousands of dollars to get that kind of information.
Divorce lawyers typically charge between $300 – $500 per hour.
The longer they talk, the more you pay.
Because divorce involves so many different areas of your life (your home, your retirement, your kids, support, taxes, etc.) there is a lot to talk about.
That means, you will pay A LOT of money to get the information you need.
You could easily pay thousands of dollars just to have an attorney explain the first few steps in divorce.
Then you have to remember everything your lawyer said. That’s not easy when your head is already spinning.
When you walk into that lawyer’s office, you’re nervous. You’re upset. You’re emotional. You don’t know what to say. You don’t know what to ask.
You don’t even know what you don’t know.
So you sit there in a daze while the lawyer talks at you for an hour. Then you leave. Two hours later, you can’t even remember most of what the lawyer said.
How do I know?
I know because I’ve watched clients sit in my office and totally glaze over while I try to explain to them what they are facing, and what they have to do to get through their divorce.
I’ve answered their questions, and given them their options. But most of them only remember a small fraction of our conversation later.
So, they call me again, and they pay me again to get the same information again.
But at least my clients are getting the information they need.
Not every divorce lawyer will tell you everything you need to know. Even if they do, they certainly won't tell you everything right from the start.
Why does that matter?
You can't make a choice, if you don't know you have a choice to make.
For example, do you know:
If you don't the answers to these questions, then you can't know whether whatever you are fighting about really matters. So you can end up "winning" the stuff that makes your ego feel good, but losing the things that are truly the most important to you.
Here's the real problem with that.
In divorce, you only get one chance to get a good result. There are no "do-overs."
If you want the best outcome possible in your divorce, you have to have the best information possible.
What people are saying about Karen and The Divorce Road Map Program:
"Thanks again for a phenomenal program. You offer hope and practical advice that one can divorce with dignity, no matter what is thrown at them . . . and a reminder that one needs to plan for life after divorce as well. Such great reminders and wisdom --which is hard to remember when one is the fog of divorce. Your program is a spotlight that cuts through that fog, and shines a light on the way out. "
"When I first dove into Karen's course, I didn't really know what to expect. I was pleasantly surprised at how complete and detailed her information was. Karen answered every question I would have asked an attorney (at $300/hr by the way) and even more that I would have never thought of asking. Karen's communication style is clear and her empathy made my feel that everything was going to be ok which is so important for couples facing divorce."
"Karen, I want to thank you for guiding me through the most horrific period of my life. I appreciate your advice, your professionalism, and your compassion. Thank you for taking the time to listen to me and treating me like a person, not just a client."
"I spent the first 6 months of a separation from my husband immersing myself in relationship books and therapy, trying to save our nearly 10 year marriage with a young child. Probably out of fear more than anything else. Once I finally accepted it was over, I stumbled upon a few of Karen Covy’s videos on divorce which were so helpful, that I immediately purchased the Divorce Road Map program.
This was the best ... investment I have ever made, and should be REQUIRED reading for anyone at any stage of the divorce process - particularly at the beginning. Somehow she has managed to tailor the content to both parties to a divorce; no small feat for sure. (I would have saved thousands of dollars that I spent on the attorney I now have on retainer as a “consultant” since my husband and I are trying not to litigate!)
This course provides a much needed high level - yet content rich - overview on the whole divorce process regardless of state, which is quite overwhelming. Karen’s calming, reassuring tone throughout this course - which is FULL of practical advice lawyers often will not tell you - helped me get to a place where I can move forward with more confidence. Although I know things will get harder before they get easier, having Karen’s material to refer back to will certainly help keep me focused and on the right track."
"THANK YOU for sharing so much information! My divorce was final a couple of weeks ago. Yes, divorce is hard, costs more, and takes longer than you expect.
... Thank you for being an amazing resource! We ended up using a variety of methods to keep the divorce moving forward - worked together collaboratively, negotiated using 4-way meetings, and ended up hiring a retired judge to help mediate the last major issue (maintenance). I do believe that your information helped me be a better client and work better with my attorney.
In this Divorce Road Map Program you will discover:
... and more.
This is the information you need BEFORE you hire an attorney. That way, when you walk into an attorney’s office, you will walk in as an educated consumer, not as a helpless mess.
That alone could save you thousands of dollars in legal fees.
The Divorce Road Map Program will give you the knowledge and the STRUCTURE you need so that you can PLAN your divorce. You will be able to see what lies ahead of you, and take your divorce step by step, one step at a time.
This program is specifically designed to put you the driver’s seat in your divorce. It is full of totally "do-able" actionable steps that you can take to get through your divorce with more clarity and control.
It is unlike anything you will get from most divorce attorneys.
Most divorce lawyers won't share their secrets with you no matter how much you pay them.
Even if you could get a lawyer to give you this much information (and good luck with that!), it would cost you between $3000 - $5000. Or more.
Plus, no lawyer would give you his/her personal worksheets and checklists.
No lawyer would present you with a structured program to take you through your divorce one step at a time.
And, of course, most lawyers won't tell you how you can take a few simple steps to dial down the drama and avoid paying huge amounts of money in legal fees.
Yet, that's exactly the kind of information you're going to discover in the Divorce Road Map program.
And you get it not just once, but as many times as you want. You can watch this program over and over again, at your own pace, in the comfort of your own home (or wherever else you want to watch this!)
For only $597 (or 2 monthly payments of $347), you will get unlimited access to hours of practical divorce information and actionable tips, broken down into short, digestible videos.
You can watch these videos anywhere and anytime you want.
You can watch all of them, or easily pick and choose the ones that you want.
You will also get checklists, charts, and worksheets that you can download and use in your own divorce.
You will also get SOMETHING EVEN MORE VALUABLE...
For 2 months, you will get access to a weekly Q & A call where you can ask me your divorce questions directly!
Now, just so you know, I'm not allowed to answer your legal questions. But since so much of divorce is not about the law anyway, having access to a divorce professional who can answer all of your non-legal divorce questions is incredibly valuable.
... and your access to this weekly Q & A is absolutely FREE for the first two months after you join the program!
No one should go through divorce alone.
Divorce is scary. It changes everything in your life.
But, when you know what to expect, and what to do, even divorce can be manageable.
If you're struggling with divorce, and don't know what to do, the Divorce Road Map Program will give you the knowledge and information you need to make better choices, and the confidence to move forward.
Some things can't be fixed.
Divorce doesn't have to ruin your life. It will change it.
The rest is up to you.